Thanks to The Patchwork Fox for the idea! I encourage you guys to copy the questions down yourselves and leave me a pingback with your answers in the comments. Some self-reflection and purposeful thought is always a good idea and it’s never too late to start.
1. How do you feel at the moment?
2. What do you need more of in your life?
Self-compassion and patience.
3. What would make you happy right now?
Is it a cop-out to say I don’t know…?
4. What is going right in your life?
I have supportive and loving people around me and I’m planning on continuing with my CBT in the new year.
5. What are you grateful for? List at least ten things.
Animals, my friends, my family, my home, having enough resources to be comfortable, freedom, my physical health, coffee, my mind (kind of a double-edged sword this one…), a fire place, a car and opportunity.
6. When did you experience joy this week?
Going skating for the first time in years, I felt like a kid again.
7. List all your small victories and successes.
If you look at them right, there really are endless opportunities to celebrate our little victories. Getting out of bed, eating a meal, taking a shower, telling the truth…
Recently however, I was in a limbo between feeling proud of myself for spending the day socializing (which is slightly out of my comfort zone most of the time) and feeling silly for celebrating what seemingly should be simple.
8. What’s bothering you? Why?
Thinking of the new year and the uncertainty surrounding it. I don’t want to be asked what my goals or resolutions are because its hard to know where I’m going to be. I don’t really have a plan for myself. It feels like I’m disappointing when can’t look ahead to paint a pretty picture for others of what my life will look like a few months from now.
9. What are your priorities at the moment?
Being safe, healthy, open and honest.
10. What do you love about yourself?
That I’m a genuinely caring person.
11. Who means the world to you and why?
My best friend and boyfriend who have stayed by my side despite me feeling like they shouldn’t.
12. If you could share one message with the world, what would it be?
Be nice and don’t take shit too seriously.
13. What advice would you give your younger self? (Do you follow this advice now?)
Some things I’m still trying to use to guide me now:
Think about what it’s really worth. What do you enjoy? Listen to your intuition. What gives you pleasure? Pursue what sets your soul on fire and don’t feel guilty about doing so. Open yourself up to others as much as they feel comfortable to open up to you – it will always be worth it, even if it hurts. Cut back on social media** and read more. (Also, read Desiderata by Max Erhman and heed his words).
14. What lesson did you learn this week?
I was reminded of many things. That showing up is meaningful. I have good people in my life. Not all my relationships are going to look the same, and that’s okay – the important ones each still have their own place. Doing things for yourself is a good thing and being occasionally selfish is absolutely necessary. Connections are important. Food is fuel, yes, but it is also tradition, social, cultural and usually just fricken yummy.
15. If you had all the time in the world, what would you want to do first?
16. What’s draining your energy? How can you reduce or cut it out?
Anxiety. If only I knew – I’m working on it.
17. What does your ideal morning look like?
Coffee, somewhere warm, in a cottage on a lake with some kittens and good company. And likely a good book or good music.
18. What does your ideal day look like?
^ Probably not much different.
19. What makes you come alive? When was the last time you felt truly alive?
Learning for the sake of learning, getting outside, and trying new things. Probably skating the other day for the first time in years.
20. What/who inspires you the most? Why are you drawn to those inspirations?
Authenticity, honesty, kindness and care. People who are unapologetically their imperfect selves, who pursue what they care about, and who are compassionate and accepting of others doing the same make the world a better place and create space for others to show-up as the similarly-flawed human beings they are as well.
21. Where does your pain originate? What would need to happen for you to heal?
22. What are your strengths? What are you really good at?
I’m good at caring for others but not for myself. I’m hard-working, often to my own detriment. I am relatively naturally intelligent.
23. What is something you’ve always wanted to do but were too scared?
Move to another country for a while and work/study abroad.
24. What is something you would love to learn?
25. What hobbies would you like to try?
26. Where would you want to live in your ideal life?
Somewhere close to nature with enough sun that’s near friends.
27. Where would you like to travel in the next five years?
Iceland, Thailand and Greece.
28. What can you do to take better care of yourself?
A lot… Be more compassionate, eat better, find a balance between pushing myself and taking things easy, open up more.
29. When have you done something that you thought you couldn’t do?
March. June. September, October. Two days ago.
30. At the end of your life, what do you want your legacy to be?
See question 20.