I define me

Hi everyone! Ages ago I mentioned that I became an an ambassador for Project I Define Me but I haven't spoken about it since. So here's my shameless little plug - featuring a silly photo I took with self timer on my camera... that is definitely not my favourite. I'm not selling anything I promise! [...]

I didn’t know it at the time, but this is why I stuck around. To feel the warmth of the setting sun bathe my skin. To drive home from dinner with a great friend with the windows down, a stomach full of spinach dip, and a heart full of love. Not to know where the [...]

Not all Discomfort is Created Equal

Now if you didn't already know, I'm a sucker for a good list (or any itemized index that allows me hold onto the fleeting notion that there's some semblance of order or logic in my life) but I'm sitting here looking at my agenda of counselling "homework" and dreading having to sequentially confront my own [...]

Steady as She Goes

Hi everyone! Sorry for being relatively inactive on this blog for a while. I actually still have several topics lined-up that I'm keen to write about, but I keep doubting myself and my "right" to discuss complicated issues. My inner saboteur (as RuPaul would call it) has been acting up. So in the spirit of [...]

I don't know that I'll ever be fully satisfied with what I write. I also don't know that it's important for why I write in the first place. I might not always love the end product, or think everyone else will too, but the process of putting words to what's going on often helps. This [...]

Don’t leave a trace Don’t want any crumbs Like we don’t want any more holes in the wall. Chew quietly, But the right things, But not too much. Don’t walk on your heels, Your presence is too loud. we don’t want drinking So that means no cutlery clinking. We don’t want lies, So no speaking. [...]

My Go-To Self-Compassion Practice

I’m not saying this simple mindful self-compassion practice is going to solve all your problems, but it can certainly help. My life isn't completely different, but it IS significantly better, owing to a lot of hard work, including working on practicing self-compassion.

Recovery Resources 2 – Distress Tolerance

Hi everyone! I know it's been a while since I last posted and bit longer since I shared the previous "Recovery Resources" (Emotional Awareness), so here we are with the next update in the series - Distress Tolerance. As I previously mentioned, these posts are primarily a way for me to reflect on the DBT skills [...]

“I Feel Fat”

Today in group we discussed whether or not we thought "fat" was a bad word, and boy were there some different opinions on the matter. First of all, I think it's undeniable that as a culture we have demonized the word fat. I also think our relationship with it is entirely confused (and I personally can't [...]

Hindsight

[Potential CW] It's often hard to honour a commitment to someone you dislike, So sometimes it's easier to think of self-care and healing as honouring the "Me" who got me here. Doing it for my younger self who was afraid, confused, and alone, but who held on despite it all. The child who blew out [...]